Thursday, October 4, 2007


Well, it has come, just as Mom predicted. Only in a form that I wouldn't have. It appears that she is being removed/fired/reassigned from her job, effective next Tuesday.

She's 69 years old and has no retirement savings. Not one red cent. I'm so screwed.


  1. Get "Codependent No More" by Melanie Beatty. Read it. You will see yourself in there. (I'll be in there too!!) She mostly talks about dealing with an alcoholic, but codependency doesn't care who/what you're focusing on. The book won't cure your problems, but it will open your eyes and give you tools to work with.

  2. Brian,

    I actually own the book. It was recommended to me by a therapist because she considered me to be "an adult child of an alcoholic who didn't drink". I understand what I need to do. I just resent the holy hell out of having to do it. It's that resentment that I would like to get over.

    My only response to her was that I loved her and I was sorry that she was going through this. And both of those things are true. I am not riding to the rescue here. I am just going to let whatever happen, happens.

    I've spent the last few hours since the news hit just driving around. Went out to the Mango Hut and stood out under a tree and gave myself a good talking to.

  3. It's so easy to sit here and say "Rox, this is what you gotta do". Then I turn around and look in the mirror. Oops. It's the doing it that's the hard part, isn't it?


We'll try this for a while.