Friday, May 9, 2008

Dial F for Failure

Three Fs. Two Ws. A cumulative gpa that is rapidly approaching zero.

Bick had pretty much prepared himself for this. Although, perhaps there was a part of him that hoped that somehow she would pull some of this out - both for her and for him. The hardest part of this to accept for him is her willingness to just flat out lie to him about all of it.


  1. I'm sorry this is happening to you and to Bick. There's really nothing else to say.

  2. ugh, I expected it to be bad, but not THIS bad...I'm sorry you & bick have to go thru this.

    I do think in light of these grades, Bick's decision to only pay for completed classes is completely justified.

    with a little tough love, maybe Sandy will come around. hang in there!

  3. Ouch... The only thing I can say is, I did the exact same thing, BUT my dad was NOT paying for my college. I did it only to myself. He is completely justified in being hurt about the lying and of course expect her to come around before one more dime is paid! Otherwise it won't change.

  4. Man, I'm so sorry to hear this is happening. I just finished my Genetics and Environmental Biology classes with Bs in each and Database Development with an A. Whoot! Currently taking Software Quality Assurance (one school is semesters, one school is quarters so some classes overlap.) But, I'm tellin' ya, that really kicked my butt and was a daily struggle.

    Of course, I WANT this ... and it's MY MONEY that I spend or waste based on my performance.

    It's sort of my personal philosophy that not everyone (maybe even most everyones) are really not ready to go straight into college after high school. There are certainly some that ARE, but I kinda think they are the exception to the rule.

    Some countries have a mandatory two-year civil service stint. Be a trash collector, a meter maid, a volunteer firefighter, etc. Sounds like it could be good idea to give a young person something product to do while the mature a little more and maybe figure out what they really want to do. And figure out that college really is worth it in the scheme of long-range things. I just don't think that lots of kids really grasp the long-term consequences of their actions, even at age 18.

    I know that it's taken Adam about 3-4 years to realize that, gee, he's not going to get anything special for just showing up to work each day. And it took my cousin Michael to dismally at college for a year and then working menial jobs for a few years until he was 25 and woke up and realized that college was a key for him to do the things to do and make the money that he wanted to make.

    So, um, all this rambling to say that I think that maybe Sandy just needs to not go to school and take some time to figure things out and realize that college is a good thing.

    I think it can be hard to sit back and let a child do that, there's certainly lots of worry related to that decision/situation. But I like to think that it's an investment in the long-term and I'd rather my child learn that lesson now, at this younger age, instead of stretching it out and out with the attendant worry and frustration and strain on the realtionship. Maybe it's time to say "Hey, if you don't want to go to school right now, don't go. Wait until you DO WANT TO DO GO and we can discuss the financial strategies at that time."

    My rambly two-cents... (of course all said with well-intentioins and love for all the parties involved!)


We'll try this for a while.