I had a situation yesterday that left me spitting nails. My mood had not improved by the time I got home from work and my feelings left me pretty irritable and uncomfortable. So rather than take it out on Bick or raid the fridge or the bar or the department store, I threw on my gym clothes and headed back to the Jesus Gym. I plugged in the iPod and sweated on the elliptical for an hour. At least I was able to let off some steam.
Came home and spent the next half hour or so meditating while Bick fixed dinner. He's always pretty understanding when I'm dealing with this stuff. So I ate my dinner, ran a soaky bath and went to bed.
The anger is pretty much gone and I'm left with the hurt I usually feel in these situations the morning after, but I am happy with how I handled myself through the entire situation, both in the moment and afterwards. I'm not waking up with any sort of "hang over" today.
I cannot control or change anybody. I am powerless over people, but I can be in control over my reactions to them. I don't have to punish myself for other people's actions.
Take good care of yourself. Be kind to others. Treat yourself with loving kindness.