Saturday, October 24, 2009
Planning for Success
The menu for the week looks like this:
Saturday: Pan-fried trout with roasted winter squash and spinach salad. No recipe here - just a little seasoned corn bread dredge. I'm through with trying to fancy up fish.
Sunday: Makhani (Butter Chicken) and green beans
Monday: Rotisserie chicken from the grocery store and a steamer
Tuesday: Pork chops and cooked cabbage - no recipe here - just old fashioned goodness
Wednesday: Chicken Satay and Okra, Indian style
Thursday: Paprika and parmesan baked chicken and broccoli
Gym went well today. Last night's mini-intervention went Sandy went better than expected. We'll know on Monday if we were able to get through to her. Her relationship with Bick is complicated, in large measure due to him and his behavior in the past. He's trying to make amends and is hit with "I didn't tell you because I was scared to". That's a tough one. Could be true, could be a convenient excuse. But it will up to them to work out their relationship. As he told her last night that they, meaning he and his EX and Sandy used to be a yelling family. Everyone yelled at everyone and tempers flared. He told her that he had left those behaviors behind and he was now part of a talk-it-out family and he wanted her to join it. He asked her to tell him when the last time he'd gotten angry with her and yelled. She did concede that it had been years. So who knows. The back story on school is that somehow, someway, something evil and hateful happened and her hateful school didn't process her FA and she got dropped for no-pay. Doesn't know why it happened and no one will talk to her about it. Fishy. But not my stuff to deal with.
The wasting-away Karen mentioned something in a comment about whether Bick's being gone for the week hurt or helped my mood. I guess it brings up the whole distraction issue. I think distraction as a technique for avoiding a binge or for use in breaking a bad habit is wonderful. Using distraction to avoid dealing with stuff is pretty much what overeating is. Using some action or person to avoid feeling whatever one is feeling or AFRAID of feeling. So his absence was good in the long-term. I couldn't use him as an excuse.
Take good care of yourself. Be kind to others. Avoid avoidance.