My sister does not drive on freeways or even some busy highways. She goes very few places and those are mostly via residential surface roads. She doesn't appear to be bothered by this.
She has been called for federal jury duty, which happens in Big D on Monday. Since she won't drive there, I offered to show her how to get there by train. Despite having grown up here, I can count on one hand the number of times she's even been to Dallas. So today, I'm taking off of work (she has Friday's off) and we are going to ride the bus and then the train to get to Dallas. And I think that I am in enabling mode. That's the hard part of all of this for me - especially where she is concerned. I keep getting tied to the outcomes and thinking that if I show her how to do these things that she will assert herself a little more. But I am really just fooling myself here. This was a perfect opportunity for the LAW to tell her she needed to get out of her comfort zone and I took that away from her.
While I am looking forward to spending the day with her - I'm sure we will have a blast - I've been assessing my part in these kinds of situations and all the other times that I've behaved like this. It hit me like a ton of bricks this morning that when she called asking for advice, instead of offering to go and show, I should have just sent her the information. I've blown an opportunity here. I am further enabling this learned helplessness, this victim mentality. Shit. I'm jumping back into the fray yet again. Double Shit.
I'm taking off on Cha-Cha for a long bike ride this morning as soon as the sun makes an appearance. I am looking forward to that. Or I could take an inaugural pass at loading Cha-Cha on the bus bike rack and bussing out somewhere and then riding back. You know, I hadn't really thought about that, but I could just haul Cha-Cha on the bus to work and then RIDE home. Now there is food for thought.
Take good care of yourself. Be kind to others. But not TOO kind.