Wednesday, January 4, 2012
Well, that was rough. Tensions ratcheted right back to the levels they were before the break. There is a situation with a woman at work, not in my office, but works with me, that is coming to a head. In the past, I've been involved, inappropriately, I might add. But several months ago, I mad the decision to step out of it and the fall-out hasn't been pretty.
I've always had this motto "I/we can make this work". I would twist and turn myself into little knots trying to make everyone comfortable in all situations. I've done this for a life time - hand me your lemons and I'll hand you back the business plan for a lemonade franchise. Except that a couple of bad things happen in the process - the other person in the deal doesn't get to experience the opportunities for growth and I completely lose sight of what I want - I just think "I'll figure this out" or "I'll make this work". No more. What's yours is yours. The positives I gained, and there were some, don't outweigh the long-term negatives.
I do so hate it when things go uncomfortably at work, as work has always been such a place of peace for me. But things and people change and I can remove myself from the fray, do my job and let others do theirs.
It's back to the hairdresser again. Let's hope it isn't weird this time. If it is, well, the hunt is on for someone new.
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Take good care of yourself. Be kind to others. Breathe deeply and let it go.