Thursday, August 2, 2012
Over the past few months, I've been setting boundaries for myself re: work responsibilities. Over the years, I'd assumed others' responsibilities and they'd been happy to let me do so. The stuff wasn't getting done and so I'd step into the void and do it - and that included managing staff. It finally dawned on me that I was the one who made changes and corrections and generally upset peoples' apple cart, while everyone else got to be the "good guy". So I've pretty much stopped this. Letting the chips fall where they may and all that. When someone comes into my office with a question or an issue that doesn't belong to me, I now respond with "Why don't we go ask XXXX?" And we go in to that office and I keep my mouth shut.
But I needed some work done in order to do my an important system enhancement and since the other person had a year to do this thing and didn't, I have spent the better part of this week doing the work - and building up a huge resentment. Again. And because my part of this is so important, I've lost sleep over it. So, all of that to say, when this other thing hit, I was irritated and tired and I reacted by doing something that wasn't my business to do and it wasn't very nice on top of that. It came out sideways with a large side of snark. My intention wasn't to be mean, but I did not behave like a friend should. I got a FB message from a friend and I posted it on this blog You may have seen it, before I came to my senses and pulled it - I know at least one of you did. It was a highly inappropriate thing for me to do. I hope to behave better in the future.