Thursday, January 10, 2013

Group Therapy Thursday: Mirror Exercise Discussion

Ah, the mirror exercise.  Can I just say that this exercise does not increase my self-acceptance?  Oh, the part before turning and looking is just fine.  I get that.  I can do that.  And I don't think that I'm ugly, because I'm not - I'm stylish, attractive and quite often, striking.  And I'd rather keep THAT vision in my head than the one staring back at me in the mirror.  Yes, I know that I have deep wrinkles and I know that my skin is flawed and my complexion ain't dewy - those are facts that I'd rather not dwell on, thank-you-very-much. 

Much like I've given up weighing everyday because the scale has too much power, looking in the mirror just makes me feel like I need to head to Costa Rica for a facelift - even though that goes completely against my core value system. 
My value is the person I am and not the package that I come wrapped in. 

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  1. "My value is the person I am and not the package that I come wrapped in."

    Amen!

    And for the record, I think you're beautiful.

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    1. You are a dear, Angela. Thank you.

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  2. Roxie, I am also doing the challenge. I understand totally with what you are saying. Before doing it, I have always felt 25 even though I am 42..when I turned around, I saw someone old and tired. I looked as it as seeing a new friend, looking for the good person inside of me. Now I did try it again straight out of the shower. WILL NEVER DO THAT AGAIN lol..and I knew as soon as I turned around it was a BAD idea and I ended it there..maybe 'new friends' are not meant to be seen straight out of the shower lol.
    But I understand and respect your view of the challenge. I agree with Angela, your quote is worth repeating and remembering.
    Brenda

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    1. Hi Brenda,

      Sounds like you were more in the spirit of the exercise than I was. Perhaps I was a tad too literal and too "fresh out of the shower" myself.

      Thanks for posting - nice to see you.

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  3. I have come to realize over the past several months that I need to change what I offer to subscribers and this post sealed the deal. Thank you Roxie!

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    1. Oh, Karen, it wasn't a criticism of the exercise. I certainly wasn't being very tactful - it was just how I related to the exercise. It's all about me, you know ;-).

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  4. This is a great example that we all get something different when we do mirror work. What I got from the experience was more internal than external, mainly because it was suggested that we look at ourselves with 'soft' eyes - which, to me, meant that we should acknowledge ourselves as a whole, complete energy source. I know if I stared at myself with my eyes 'wide open' I'd literally freak out, so I completely get where you're coming from.
    My aunt is 76 years old and she lives by the saying, 'you're only as old as you feel.' She practices this by living each day to the fullest and because of her attitude she looks younger every time I see her. It really is all about attitude. It's finding our way through the muck to capture that attitude - that's the true challenge.

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    1. ...and to clarify - not implying that you freak out when you look in the mirror - those words were describing me and my anxiety issues about age. See? THIS is when a good, old fashioned 'in person' session would come in handy, instead of trying to wrap up such a complicated task into a neat little bow.

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    2. Oh man, I love the concept of whole, complete energy source. Now that is a vision to which I aspire!

      LOL - I don't freak out when I look in the mirror - unless I'm leaning over a magnifying mirror - that is a horror show in and of itself!

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  5. Since I renovated my bathroom and put lights on each side of my mirror I look great in the morning and I hold that image of myself all day. Lighting is how they do it in Hollywood.

    I thank my body for being there through thick and thin. Even after all I have put it through it still supports me.

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    1. Grace, I like your style! It reminds me of Barbra Streisand - only photographed in soft light and only from her "good" side.

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We'll try this for a while.