Sunday, March 1, 2015

Slurpies From Heaven

The weather is the big story around here.  We've had snow and ice and snow and ice.  Last Friday's weather, however, kinda snuck up on everyone.  It got bad in a hurry.  People had hours-long commutes - stuck in gridlocked traffic for hours.  I had a bit of an adventure in getting home.  The office closed early but I stayed behind a bit to finish up a project I wanted to get out in front of the students on the snow day.  Little did I know (or think about) that the shuttles stop when the office closes.  So I had to make the trek all the way to my car on foot in the snowfall.  I also needed to go to the store and lay in supplies, but after seeing how slick it was, I just stopped at the convenience store on my pedestrian trip to get to my car.  I managed to sneak around the back way home and avoid most of the back ups.  Whew!  I only encounter four idiots on my way home!

Weather so bad here that the big races got cancelled - all but the half, at least broadcast.  Lots of disappointed people - but safety first.  We are just now getting above freezing.  It's an accident waiting to happen out there.  

I did manage to make myself a snow treat - a modified version of snow ice cream.  I had some almond milk left over from my guest (I'd never had it - it's really good), added a pinch of vanilla and a bowlful of snow.  Oh, and an hooch-soaked cherry on top.  Fun stuff.

The picture of my last week's ice project.  It's actually chocolate brown and white paisley - and I decided it needed  turquoise trim.  I'm happy with the way it turned out.  It's the first garment I've sewn in ages.  Now it just needs to warm up so that I can wear it.

And in the Homer-Simpson-doh-department, since my bluray player went back home with the kids when they took their tv, I though I'd lost my ability to stream music.  Never occurred to me to just stream it through my laptop.  Where did I put that abacus?  So this morning I've been jamming to the very unhip Hall & Oats station and going through all my files, sorting and filing, and pulling paperwork.  Go me!  And of course, getting my stuff ready for taxes.

Take good care of yourself.  Be kind to others.  Make your dreams come true.

-Roxie


Saturday, February 21, 2015

Marooned

We have lost all radio contact, Professor Plum and me.  Nothing for more than a week.  Oh well.  Nothing to do with me.

My company was interesting and enlightening.  I can see how we became friends back in the day and I can see that if we met now, it would never happen.  I am not the same person that I was thirty years ago and I want more from my friendships these days.  So I've now tried the geographic fix for this friendship (my turf) and that didn't work for me either.  It's time to just let it move into a different category and just let it be what it is.  After this boundary-busting experience, I don't see myself inviting her back here and I, for sure, won't be going there.  And neutral ground is out, too.  I am just unwilling to play the role I used to play.  The fumes from thirty plus years ago just aren't enough to fuel a close friendship anymore.  I'm calling it progress.

Take good care of yourself be kind to others.  Be kind to others.  Kind, but firm.

-Roxie




Tuesday, February 10, 2015

Oh? Captain?

VN sailing vessel
Turns out, Prof X is also a Captain.  I just got invited to go sailing this weekend - which I had to turn down because I have company coming from out of state.  I asked for a no-rain check, so we'll see.


Friday, February 6, 2015

Is it hot in here?

Lunch was nice - very nice.  Before we even reached the restaurant, he said "I hope this is a social outing, not a work-related one.  I remember thinking when I met you on the bus, "she's cute and friendly, I wonder if she's single".  This could be interesting.

In other news, one should not be forced to endure first dates and hot flashes at the same time.  The universe has a unique sense of humor.

Take good care of yourself.  Be kind to others.  Life has an interesting way of unfolding.

-Roxie

Sunday, February 1, 2015

Self-Help

I took every self-help, diet, exercise, money, dating, codependence, get-it-all, keep-it-all, every fix-what's-wrong-with-me-book, amassed over decades and got rid of them today.  The idea had been brewing for a while - months, in fact. My therapist told me that she thought that at a very gut level, I viewed myself as deeply flawed and broken and given that, I discounted myself in so many, many ways.  In work.  In relationships.  In.my.head.  I asked her therapist once how to fix all that was broken within me and she told me, very plainly, choose to be unbroken.

Choosing to be whole  - oh, hell, I was going to qualify it with something about being human and flawed, which is true - but the point was that I didn't want YOU to think I thought too much of myself.  There is that discounting again.

There is a difference betweek seeking encouragement and viewing oneself as inherently broken.  I want to emphasize my strengths, my self-ness, my positives and increase my opportunities for laughter, for growth, to disobey fear, and be okay with me, knowing that a mistake or disappointment or even an embarassment will not kill me.  The world will not end - (can't tell you how powerful that statement was for me - again, thanks, Lyn).

Couple of things happened this week to move me more in this direction - Pebbles quit her job of ten years.  She went out and found herself a better one, a different one, one that challenges her - and negotiated her way to a big salary bump and increased benefits.  She left her comfortable place and is stretching herself in a new direction.  She admitted to being scared but said if she didn't like or it didn't work out, she'd get another job.  Oh, and she said SHE was interviewing them.  She was deciding if she wanted the job or not - that was the way she viewed this process - she was interviewing them.  And there were interviews where she didn't like the job and where they didn't like her and it was all okay.  She'd be fine - until she found the job that met her requirements.  And now she's going to give it a go.  No matter the outcome - the world will not end.  She get's it - it appears to be in her genes - or perhaps it is just a choice she made.  In any case, I am happy for her and proud of her.

I have a skeletal dating profile - no pictures, no descriptions, just the minimum info and requirements.  I don't use the thing, haven't looked at since I set it up months ago.  But everyday, I get an email showing me my 12 matches.  Sometimes I open it and look - but most times it just hits the delete bucket.  I did open it on Friday and Guess Who was at the top of the list?  Professor X.  So I decided to take another run at this - I emailed him (via work) and suggested we put our fumbled lunch date back on our calendar for next week.  He responded quickly and agreed.  And then I am going to tell him that I would to see him socially.  Or perhaps even suggest an actual outing.  Either way, any way,  no matter the outcome, the world won't come to an end.

Take good care of yourself.  Be kind to others.  Enough is enough.

-Roxie


Monday, January 19, 2015

I disobeyed fear

It's been a wonderful three day weekend here in North Texas (no, that's not Texas, it's AZ Nov. 2013) but we have had several days of fabulous weather.  And I've enjoyed every minute of it.  Got in a good bike ride on Saturday and worked out in the yard both Sunday and Monday.  It's just gorgeous! Was invited by a new friend to a dinner party on Saturday night that was marvelous.  Life is really good.

Lunch didn't happen as planned with Prof X on Friday.  Missed communications.  Don't know if it will happen but I've already gained so much from the experience that I'm not losing any sleep over it. I got to examine some really deep seated, but illogical fears and reactions and I got to practice being flirty - which in this particular case, came very easy.  All good things.

Been enjoying a new podcast, doing lots of crossword puzzles and watching Friends on Netflix.


Take good care of yourself.  Be kind to others.  As Lyn so wisely said, the world will not end.

-Roxie

Sunday, January 11, 2015

Sickly Sunday

I finally was felled by whatever crud is going around.  No the flu, thankfully - just some upper respiratory stuff.  Had to cancel several events that I was looking forward to, darn it.  Am back to feeling almost back to normal.  I hope I continue to improve, as I have too much to do to be sick.

In the latest laughable news, on Wednesday, I was at my desk eating an early lunch of TUNA on salad, when guess who popped in to take me to lunch?  You have never seen a salad disappear so quickly (under my desk)!  I did get a heads up phone call from the front desk that he was coming back to my office, thankfully, but I could do nothing to get rid of eau-de-cat-lady.  I couldn't go to lunch, as I was scheduled to leave in a few minutes to go get my mom and take her to the doc.  Oh well.  We are on tap for next Friday.  I would much rather it been able to be "spur of the moment" rather than planned, but it is what it is.

He stayed and chatted for quite a bit (the man can TALK) and I did learn some interesting things.  He used to work with a woman I know very well.  As a matter of fact, they went out a few times decades ago.

Take good care of yourself.  Be kind to others.  Be a legend.

-Roxie